Friendship

Friendship (Written 3/4/2007 on Tribe.net)

The last few months of my life have really caused me to look at and work to understand what friendship is. How do I know who my friends are and what does friendship mean to me..
....and I have discovered that my true friends are the people who are dedicated to knowing and becoming friends with themselves. The people who dedicate their lives to expanding, questioning, challenging, applying their new awarenesses, re-arranging, and pinching themselves constantly to keep themselves awake..... Ever in the work of improving their lives, expanding their awareness, becoming more comfortable with the truth of who and what they are... releasing the patterns and habits that keep them blocked and living in vicious unproductive cycles...
which means I have good friends in my life that I know and interact with and I automatically have 1,000's of friends whom I have not yet and may never physically meet...
And the reason that these people are what I consider to be my friends... is...... they are friends and becoming ever better friends with themselves.. giving to themselves friendship, giving to themselves love, appreciation, joy, happiness, challenge, and beauty consistently with the choices they make in every moment of their lives..
because what we give to ourselves, what we as individuals share with ourselves, what we put into our body, what thoughts we hold in our mind, what choices we make and what habits and patterns define our reality, ...... is what we HAVE to give to others.... and when we are friends with ourselves then all we have is friendship to give to others.... thus, these people are already/automatically my friends...
And there is no escape from us, there is no vacation, there is no later, there is right now and only right now to work this work and I love being in a life that is filled with others with like mind... and as I am re-aligning myself with this way of life.... I have observed that people who had been big parts of my life simply fade and dissolve away.... and what I am left with are friends, I run into them at the gas stations, on the street, everywhere that I am......
So it all boils down to: friendship is a state of mind cultivated in the time when I am alone. Independent of any person, place, thing, hobby, activity, career, etc.... It is a lifetime(s) work and there is no end to this work and at the same time, there is no limit to it's reward....